You know when you write a ton of texts for other people, but then when you have to write one for your own blog you get nervous? No? Well, that’s me right now. Maybe because this story is personal, and on other websites I’m just a fashion reporter (which is also fine, I like to expand my knowledge).
The suggested theme was how we got into alternative fashion, and what we like and dislike about it, so let’s jump right into it!
This post is essentially an epilog to my Blogiversary story, so check it out here!
About Alternative Bloggers’ Scene…
Now, I said I wasn’t gonna talk about other bloggers and what they do. I’m still not gonna mention any names, numbers, phone number, links… But the thing is, back when I started following blogs 5-6 years ago, I just felt like the bloggers’ world needed a bit more glamour. And today I feel like it needs a lot.
You see: on one side we have the classic goth bloggers, and on the other side the hippy-dippy/boho vegan bloggers. Then we have the minimalist/normcore bloggers who wear nothing but white shirts and jeans, and the grungy hipster Tumblr kids. And all of them are doing REALLY well. So basically when I started blogging I accepted the fact that I’m never gonna be one of those rich bloggers, and I wanted to remain true to myself at all costs. But as it turns out, fortune favors the bold, which we’re about to see later…
Besides the above-mentioned styles, we have a somewhat smaller group of rockabilly/pinup and Japanese style bloggers. Now don’t get me wrong, of course there are more and less original people among goths etc, and also people I like to follow, but I just feel like the alternative world needs more “alternative”, or – diversity.
What I dislike about the alternative bloggers world is that there’s a certain level of elitism – I remember when I started out and wanted to make connections, most of them didn’t even bother to reply, let alone show interest in your blog, or, I don’t know, God forbid, like your FB post! 😮 The whole point of the Alternative bloggers’ group was for people to find new interesting blogs, but no one seems to give a damn.
Now back to myself, I wouldn’t know how to describe MY style, but I’ve been called everything from cyber-goth to pin-up. My best description would be glam punk/rock/metal. All in all – glamorous and full of details.
The weird thing is, although I’m mostly wearing skirts and dresses, my fashion icons are actually mostly male: shock-rockers, glam rocker and modern glam metal/industrial bands like Deathstars, Negative, Escape the Fate and don’t forget the Marilyn Manson! The point is – I like people who are not afraid to experiment and incorporate for example “fancy” details such as glitter and animal prints into a classic metal/goth wardrobe, I like the element of surprise.
The one video that probably defined my fashion taste – Mr Manson
About My Work…
Now comes the second (motivational 🙂 part of my story. I feel like I owe you an explanation why I’m not around so much anymore. Well it’s because I finally found a career that I love, and it’s in social media and writing.
One day an opportunity knocked on my door that I wasn’t even aware existed. Literally, I didn’t have to go and find a job – the job found me, it was so strange! But when there’s a will there’s a way, and it’s not up to you to know how that perfect opportunity will come.
The thing is, we were all raised to believe that you can’t make a living doing what you love, but deep inside obviously my faith was stronger than my doubts. Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s not all fun and games. Working in social media is an everyday all day job, although it qualifies as “part time”. But as long as it’s something you love and are passionate about, it doesn’t really matter.
Also, writing for someone else is both a blessing and a curse – it takes incredible courage to write 2000 words and not know if someone’s gonna like any of it. But that’s the risk of working in a creative field. I still take it a little personally when someone says “Change that sentence”, but I hope I’ll get used to it.
Now, I do my best to share my story, not to brag but to inspire others around me, but unfortunately, not everyone will see it that way. A lot of times I see that people just don’t understand. That’s probably because 90% of them don’t know what they want to do with their lives. But if you’re reading this you’re probably not one of those people. I’ve even recently been called a freak by a “friend”, which had never happened to me before. That’s the price of success I guess, and by success I mean the freedom (and courage) to do what you love.
Luckily, you don’t need humans’ approval – why would their opinion be more relevant than your own? You only need Universe’s approval, and the Universe knows what you want and who you are inside. Not to get all metaphysical here, but yours is only to decide what you want and the Universe will find the best way. The key is only not to feel pressure and not to put any deadlines! In fact, the things that I wanted the most had come to me even before I planned it!
So, what’s the recipe for success?
I’m not gonna tell you do this, or eat this, or share this and this on social media, because none of that crap really matters! The only thing that matters is your state of mind, the rest are just insignificant details.
1. Decide what you want
2. Don’t listen to ANYONE (I mean anyone, not your friends, not your family, not the people you live with…).
Stop analyzing. Stop making statistics. Forget the laws of probability (probability is for basic people anyway :p). As soon as you start thinking “what are the odds of this happening?” you lose. In other words, stop being “realistic”, whatever that means, since everyone’s reality is different. 3.Take the first step, even if you don’t know what you’re doing and what you’re doing it for, the path will unfold itself
4.Relax and wait and the right people will come along and recognize your talent and potential
5.Don’t sell yourself short (money is energy, and so is your work!). Celebrate every little success, even if nobody else sees it as a “big deal” – one day it will be.
There you have it – started from the bottom now we here. I can honestly say that since I’ve chosen my career my life has radically changed, I’m a different person, I value myself and don’t really need anyone. I have a career that I love – and what could be more important than that right now?
What do you think? Do you have a success story to share? Do tell!
P.S. Don’t forget to check out other alternative bloggers’ stories! As soon as I saw Steffi in a band tee and leopard fur, I knew she was my girl, her glam-punk style is really a breath of fresh air! Go like her FB page as well!
Sorry for not posting outfits for so long, but now I depend on photographers as well – you see, once you go proFASHIONal you never wanna go back! 😀 I know I used to post a lot more outfits when I shot them myself, but now I really want to put more effort into the whole shooting process, and think it’s time to take my blog to a whole new level, fashion-wise, I’m no beginner anymore. I’m also saving up for my own DSLR camera, but more about that soon. Luckily these pics were taken and edited by my beautiful talented friend photographer, blogger and designer Marija (Go check out her blog Alle’Marie as well). The location we shot is the new Belgrade Waterfront, which is still in the process of building, we’ll see how that turns out. Anyway, the whole inspiration was the dark Easter outfit, since we had orthodox Easter just yesterday, together with the 1st of May. Of course I remembered my Banggood bunny ears – they’re too fabulous to be worn only once, and this was the perfect occasion. The black tutu I’ve had for years, but the problem is the tailor made the lining too tight so I couldn’t wear it for some time. Lucky for me, Marija’s mom is also a tailor (she really has fashion in her genes!) and made it a little wider at the waste and fixed it. I’ve also become obsessed with slave bracelets, so I had to include some bling into this dark outfit. The leather jacket is a must in these spring days. All in all I really love how the pictures turned out (that’s why I uploaded so many :), and can’t wait to see what you think! <3
Outfit details:Lace bunny ears: see HERE Fake septum ring: see HERE Leather jacket: Pepe Jeans Bag: Guess